Saturday, April 30, 2011

Kate and William's royal kiss - awakes the princess in us

I am not a fan of royalty neither have I ever followed family sagas and drama of aristocratic families around the world. I do remember my first encounter with a magazine called 'Hola' which learnt also existed in English as 'Hello' and is full of pictures of the rich and royal....I was surprised that those are quite successful in attaining large numbers of readerships. I could not believe it when girls in my class cried about lady Di death. Not that I didn't feel some empathy with the family, however, I certainly could not shed tears. To cut a  long story short, I am and never was interested in royal and aristocratic gossip.
Until probably last week I might not even have recognized Kate Middleton and her husband to be, Prince William of Wales, if I had to meet them on the street.
Besides the thousands of people that actually did, I have to admit that even I got to watch parts of yesterday's event - Kate and William's wedding. What an event!

While watching one of the endless recaps of the day while on the treadmill at the gym, I found myself smiling at the beautiful bride and my heart melted seeing the first kiss on the balcony of Buckingham Palace.

I was wondering why this happened to me and to many other women around me....
Is this the lost princess that we all at one stage of our life wanted to be (probably at the age of 8 more or less)? Or do we all hope to still be kissed by a prince? Or does it remind us that the fairy-tales that we listened to as children and the Hollywood chick-flicks we watch as adults can become true? Is it maybe that this short little moment allows us to believe in the prince and Mr right? 


Friday, April 22, 2011

Relationship-life-balance

Since I have moved from singledom to coupledom, I am trying to figure out this new world of ‘two’.

During my December holiday I read the book ‘Good man hunting’. From the book I got the lesson that being single is a lifestyle as well as being in a relationship. Both lifestyles have their disadvantages and advantages. Constantly comparing the one to the other becomes tedious but instead embracing each lifestyle is much more enjoyable....
Anyway, that being said it’s time for me to embrace this thing called ‘relationship’.  The first thing a couple of weeks into the relationship is something I would call ‘relationship-life-balance’. How does one manage to add this new item 'relationship' to ones already fully packed diary? I always found it an art to ensure I have a ‘balanced’ lifestyle referring to it more in the context of work-life-balance. The ideal non-work time in my mind looks like a balance between a gym routine, eating health food, having daily quiet time, at least once a week me-time, read the news daily, socialise regularly with friends, spend time with family, sleep minimum 7 hours, blog (;-) ) and either read a good book or some academic articles.
Now having entered into a relationship there is this great person in my life who I want to actually spend 24/7 with. The first couple of weeks I just threw all or most of the above over board. I figured it is fine when newly in love – everyone will forgive one, even I myself. But after a while people are less tolerant and my inner me also shouts for its routine. What now?

I didn’t even go down the road to ‘manage it all’ – too much work, too stressful. If you google the topic you will find loads of articles, links, life coaches to assist, but who has the time to go through them? I asked myself how do people who in addition have kids manage all of this? Am I being unreasonable?
photo posted by graurcodrin
I have decided to not worry about it too much. At least for the first time, I feel totally comfortable in a relationship to take my me-time, to do my things and don't have the feeling that I am missing out (because he will still be there when I'm back). I am also not trying to be 'super-woman' and manage it 'all with a smile' and getting totally exhausted. 
We talk about it, we do some of the daily routine things together....and the rest....we figure out day by day....
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